Bucky Fuller said: “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
I have spent decades fighting existing reality. I am sure you have too. What do I mean?
How long have you been “doing battle” with things already in existence? Like storing too much fat on your belly or butt? Or having a bank balance that is too small? Or my sales are too low…
In past posts I have spoken about “choosing to struggle” – and in simple terms this is explained by my learning to swim process. When I swam I tensed every muscle, I strained every nerve and concentrated on every part of my body. Naturally I was exhausted after about 15 seconds, and then tended to gasp and sink.
Relax Dammit!
After a few decades of struggle I concluded that something was wrong with my process. The answer was not to try harder or for longer. It was the opposite. I experimented with doing nothing but ‘relaxing’ and the water. Just lay there, being calm. Not try at all. I could have used a modelling strategy – you know – had lessons? But no. I was addicted to “figuring things out” – a strategy which still both rewards and punishes me.
After some floating – I found that I could make movements without tensing every muscle. Eventually that led me to realising that the key to swimming is reducing resistance in the water. Splashing is waste. And now I can swim and remain relaxed and move well through the water. So – it was when I stopped doing the things that did not work or help that I benefitted. I made the old model obsolete.
The process was to discover the process and then strategically evolve it for a clear purpose. And to enjoy the experiences as much as you can. Does that sound like your business? Your health? Or are you “working” to retain the resistance and no-purpose tension? And yes – it is like an onion (tastes great when properly cooked!)
Do we “break” habits?
No. We either replace them or disconnect them.
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James.